The Bible itself affirms that in that position. How? She is in the position of helpmate. Without her, he is not complete in the Biblical sense:
And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him (Genesis 2:18).
Yet, on the other hand, she is not incomplete by not being with him in oneself. That itself is why unity in marriage has more to do with the wife: https://biblicalgenderroles.com/2016/11/23/why-unity-in-marriage-has-more-to-do-with-the-wife-than-the-husband/
Contrary to what the modern western world, and the Church thinks, that is why that the breakdown of marriage, in any cultural context, is almost always more to do with the wife. That people do not understand this stirs up confusion of proper Biblical gender roles, and has caused all the problems in today's society, and also today's Church.
That is why there are so many wives committing adultery, and more perversely, benefit from their adultery. Because they can manipulate their husbands easily, and that is all that they know how to do. They do not know how to do good, but only inflict pain, misery and heartache on their husbands, and take great pleasure in it. Woe to such vile despicable women, of whom there are many!
That is why in many cases when the woman decides to divorce her husband, it is actually better for him, and not a bad thing, such that he will not have to suffer from her contentious criticism of him:
A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike (Proverbs 27:15).
It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house (Proverbs 21:9, 25:24).
It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman (Proverbs 21:19).
To that, it can be said, better to be crucified and burned alive by terrorists, than to live with a contentious manipulative woman.
Read that again:
Better to be crucified and burned alive by terrorists, than to live with a contentious manipulative woman.
A group of Ukranian neo-nazis tortured a Russian man by tying him to a crucifix, and then lit it up:
Watch the video. It is absolutely frightening.
Well, but you know what? To have that happen to oneself is better than living with a contentious or manipulative woman, as the Bible says. The Bible makes it clear and so you better believe it.
If the person who died was a Christian, what better thing can happen to oneself, but to be martyred for one's faith? To be martyred for one's faith in Jesus Christ is the greatest honour one can have. What a glory to die for Christ!
Kelly Needham explains "Wives, whether you realize it or not, you have likely become a skilled influencer of your husband. It is second nature for women to use subtlety, nuance, and timing to encourage the changes we want to see in our men. But unfortunately most of us use this skill set selfishly, manipulating to get what we want."
She further reiterates: "As wives, we have influence over our husbands but too often we use that power in self-centered ways, manipulating to get what we want when we want it."
That is exactly right. That is why there are so many problems in the family today, including between Christian couples. It is because of this manipulation by wives that the husband is too fearful to speak against her sin, and discipline her. Yes, that's right.
That is why I have come to believe that it is best for society when women don't have political, economic or social power. (This is not to say that women should not be able to work to survive or provide for her family, but that is another story.) What happened as a result of the feminist movement?
It has produced family breakdown, dysfunctional families, sexual immorality, pornography, violence, juvenile crime, and poverty.
It is because God commands that wives submit to their husbands, as part of God's design that men must tell their wives to submit to them. Too often, he simply cowers to his wife, out of fear of her.
The existence of such fear by a man of his wife, especially in a Christian marriage, is truly disturbing. It is a sign of rebellion against God's authority by woman, and her manipulation of him which causes him to fear her. This is the spirit of jezebel.
This spirit of jezebel needs to be not only hated. It needs to be utterly hated, destroyed, eradicated and given no chance to take any place in marriage for a marriage to be pleasing to God.
To understand how much God hates the spirit of jezebel, we must understand this passage:
And when Jehu was come to Jezreel, Jezebel heard of it; and she painted her face, and tired her head, and looked out at a window.
And as Jehu entered in at the gate, she said, Had Zimri peace, who slew his master?
And he lifted up his face to the window, and said, Who is on my side? who? And there looked out to him two or three eunuchs.
And he said, Throw her down. So they threw her down: and some of her blood was sprinkled on the wall, and on the horses: and he trode her under foot.
And when he was come in, he did eat and drink, and said, Go, see now this cursed woman, and bury her: for she is a king's daughter.
And they went to bury her: but they found no more of her than the skull, and the feet, and the palms of her hands.
Wherefore they came again, and told him. And he said, This is the word of the Lord, which he spake by his servant Elijah the Tishbite, saying, In the portion of Jezreel shall dogs eat the flesh of Jezebel:
And the carcase of Jezebel shall be as dung upon the face of the field in the portion of Jezreel; so that they shall not say, This is Jezebel.
(2 Kings 9:30-37).
That is how much God hates the spirit of jezebel. That is why you need to not only hate, but be filled with such hatred for the spirit of jezebel that you can show NO mercy or grace to the spirit of jezebel, whatsoever. Only when you are not capable of showing ANY mercy or grace to the spirit of jezebel can you be free from the bondage she give, and the heartache and pain and hindrance she poses to you in obeying God. You need to cultivate it in you.
I have cultivated in me, as you can probably infer from my blog. That will truly liberate you from fear of the jezebel spirit, whether it manifests in fear of one's wife, fear of speaking out against manipulative wives, or fear of speaking out against the sins Jezebel seeks, such as abortion and adultery in women.
For the jezebel spirit thrives on fear, specifically fear of losing something that one wants, be it sex, approval from others, or kind comments. Free yourself from her so that you can be obedient to God.
Be nothing by absolutely merciless and ruthless in shunning and eradicating the spirit of jezebel.