Wednesday, 12 July 2017

The Misery of Promiscuity and the False Idea of Women's "Choice" in Marrying

The modern west becomes more and more insane each day. It is horribly sick in the head. The average westerner needs serious emotional, psychological and spiritual counseling. However, this sickness is not a recent one which only started from the beginning of the 21st century. No, it has been going on since the 18th century so-called "enlightenment".

One of the diseases which has plagued the west since the heyday of the "enlightenment" era is the so-called 'free love' movement, which has sadly destroyed the west and caused heartbreak in millions who heeded the lies of the 'free love' movement. One woman who grew up in the 1960s writes of her regret and the misery of promiscuity:

To make things worse, there were two added factors that made promiscuity so difficult to avoid. Firstly, there was very little awareness of sexually transmitted diseases – HIV wasn’t yet an issue – and very few men, now that the pill was on the scene, had any clue about how to put on a condom. Again, there was even less reason to say ‘no’ to sex, and the result was that lots of us girls spent the entire 60s in tears, because however one tried to separate sex from love, we’d been brought up to associate the two; so every time we went to bed with someone, we’d hope it would lead to something more permanent…and each time it never did. 

The other reason that sex was so grim was that now it was so easy, the art of seduction had flown out of the window. I’m sure this was partly why working-class men became so much more attractive to everyone in the 60s. They’d always found, with less birth control available among the working classes and expensive abortion  not an option, that in order to get a girl into bed they had to work really hard at the  chat-up lines. But as for men considering women’s feelings – why should they? 

They continued to satisfy their own needs and never for a moment considered whether the women they were having sex with found it pleasurable or satisfying. Most of us girls, at least those on the London rock scene as I was, didn’t have a clue as to what sex could be like when it was good. When we weren’t crying, we’d giggle, like the schoolgirls we were, about our exploits, without realising how damaging our sexual behaviour was both to our self-esteem and our souls.

Not every girl behaved quite as I did, but most came under the same kinds of pressures and few can have missed out on the occasional bleak and ghastly ‘one-night stand’, a phrase that simply didn’t exist for my parents’ generation.

After a decade of sleeping around pretty indiscriminately, girls of the 60s eventually became fairly jaded about sex. It took me years to discover that continual sex with different partners is, with very few exceptions, joyless, uncomfortable and humiliating, and it’s only now I’m older that I’ve discovered that one of the ingredients of a good sex life is, at the very least, a grain of affection between the two partners involved.

Would I go back to the swinging 60s? Never! 

Indeed, she emphatically states that she would never want to go back to the "swinging 60s". 

The misery of promiscuity is the result of disobeying God, perverting his design for sex in separating sex and marriage. Ironically, this feminist rebellion, despite its claims to 'empower' woman, has depreciated her sexual value to men, in encouraging her to prostitute herself. One could argue that this is evidence of God's design of man's dominion over woman as one which cannot be overthrown. In Genesis 2:21-25, Eve is created from Adam, and Adam names her, meaning that he has dominion over her:

And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;
And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.
And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.

Any attempts to overthrow or perverts God's design will fail, and fail miserably.

Women is subject to man, as not only indicated by his naming of her, but also that he is the one who is given the responsibility to leave his father and mother, and cleave unto his wife. It is not the woman who is the one who is commanded to leave her father and mother. Thus, where a woman actively seeks love from men, it is unbiblical. That it is unbibilical is indicated by the promiscuity which comes when women pursue men for romantic relationships. 

The idea that woman can led man in pursuing a romantic relationship is based on the false idea of "choice", that a woman who "choose" who she wants to marry, and to decide whether she wants to marry. No where in the Bible does a woman pursue or initiate a God-ordained romantic relationship. It is only the whore in Proverbs 5 and 7 who pursues such relationships.

However, this is precisely the warped view of modern western society which has influenced the Church so much. Rather, it is for God to determine whether a woman, or more generally, a person marries, and who He marries together.

Mark 10:9 says in relation to the issue of divorce, "What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." Matthew 19: 6 similarly says "Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder."

While it is not for man who choose who he marries but God, he is the one who has the responsibility to pursue as Genesis 2:24 indicates.

The whole idea of women "choosing" who she 'wants' to marry is a perversion of the God-given order of headship and submission, and is itself promiscuity. It is promiscuity because she is rebelling against God in relation to matters of sexual boundaries which God has determined.

A woman who actively pursues and initiates romantic relationships with men is a whore. She is like the woman in Proverbs 5 and 7. Run from her immediately. Her lips drip with honey but she is as bitter as wormwood.

My son, attend unto my wisdom, and bow thine ear to my understanding: 
That thou mayest regard discretion, and that thy lips may keep knowledge.
For the lips of a strange woman drop as an honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother than oil:
But her end is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword.
Her feet go down to death; her steps take hold on hell.
Lest thou shouldest ponder the path of life, her ways are moveable, that thou canst not know them.
Hear me now therefore, O ye children, and depart not from the words of my mouth. Remove thy way far from her, and come not nigh the door of her house:
Lest thou give thine honour unto others, and thy years unto the cruel:
Lest strangers be filled with thy wealth; and thy labours be in the house of a stranger;
And thou mourn at the last, when thy flesh and thy body are consumed,
And say, How have I hated instruction, and my heart despised reproof;
And have not obeyed the voice of my teachers, nor inclined mine ear to them that instructed me!
I was almost in all evil in the midst of the congregation and assembly.

(Proverbs 5:1-14)