In particular, the modern Church in the west is absolutely terrified of exposing sins specific o women. And there are many such sins committed by women. I mince no words on this.
The sins of women in the Church against her husband in the west today include:
- Nagging her husband
- Criticising him
- Gossiping about him to his friends
- Slandering him in front of her children, or friends, either at work, clubs, or at women's Bible study groups
- Slapping him
- Committing adultery, and being proud of it
- Taking abortifacient birth control pills to murder his children in the womb
- Abusing his children to manipulate him
- Spending money in a spendthrift way, causing him to be in debt, enslaving him to debt
- Making unfair accusation against him, for not "being for her". This includes accusing him of being 'abusive' when he screams at the children, but yet at the same time mocks his lack of leadership when he is kind to the children.
- Sexual denial
- Stopping him from seeing his parents
- Threatening to cause him to become bankrupt, and possibly imprisoned because of bankruptcy
- Threatening to divorce him, because of a mere personal offence caused to her
- Threatening to abuse the children sexually if he does not agree to give her child custody after a divorce
- Threatening to murder him and his children if she does not receive a lavish payout, a house and children, who she can abuse emotionally and psychologically
- Throwing a tantrum when she is rightly rebuked for her sins
Suspicion is not a sin in itself, but rather evil suspicion (1 Corinthians 13:6-7; 1 Timothy 6:4). So, such suspicion of the evils of women is not an evil suspicion, but a justified and righteous suspicion, and seeking to live holy and righteous, not being snared by woman because of the desire to marry.
While marriage can be good, it can be a snare spiritually. This is particularly the case for men, as he is the one influenced by his wife, either for better or for worse. However, based on what can be observed, it is almost always the case that he is influenced by his wife for worse. One only need to look at the example of Solomon:
Did not Solomon king of Israel sin by these things? yet among many nations was there no king like him, who was beloved of his God, and God made him king over all Israel: nevertheless even him did outlandish women cause to sin (Nehemiah 13:26).
Note how it says they "caused him to sin". They are responsible for his sins, by causing him to.
However, this is not to say that there is no such thing as a good wife, or that all women are just evil despicable jezebels who are deserving of all hatred. I am not saying this just to be 'positive' (I am not a positive optimistic person), but rather, because it is something that can also be observed. But, it needs to be absolutely said that the vast majority of wives today are jezebels, foolish evil jezebels who are nothing but a curse to their husbands, children, parents, and everyone else around them.
Owing to the cause of marriage problems in the Church today being that of the wife, the Church must really see the problem for what it really is, be courageous, hate that which is evil, and confront such sins in wives today. This is because they corrupt not only their families, causing their husbands and children to sin, but also corrupt their whole Church by their rebellion, and their demand to not rebuke sin in the way it is to be Biblically confronted.
The way sin to be Biblically confronted is not by simply persuading a person to not sin, or by being "understanding". Such is the manifestation of feminism in the Church, to simply be "undestanding" of sin, and to refuse to exercise discipline, because it might "upset" or "offend" people. To confront sin Biblically is to exercise judgment against the person, pointing out his or her sin to him or her, how he or she is in sin by referring to Biblical teaching violated, and telling the person to repent. This is indicated in Luke 17:3 and Matthew 18:15-17.
If the person is "upset" or "offended", let them be upset and offended. For why should you, or rather, how dare you compromise the Word of God, or compromise with sin, pandering to the carnality of sin in sinners? By pandering to such carnality, one not only invites sin into the Church, but to impose sin onto people for maintaining 'unity' and showing 'love'. Such people may think they are 'peace-makers' but peace-makers they are not. Rather, they cause others who seek to be righteous and not compromise with sin to stumble and be snared in their quest to seek false unity, all to pander to the carnality of sinners.
This is precisely the problem of the modern Church in relation to sins it does not want to confront, or even recognise as sins, such as the sins of women against their husbands as listed above.
So, what is the solution to the confronting, eradicating and rooting out feminism in the Church?
First, one need to rightly understand such sins for what they are. Rebellion by a wife against a husband is always despicable, and always only the tip of an iceberg. It should be treated as not just evil or concerning, but as an absolutely anathema to the Christian faith. Given the permissiveness of the modern Church towards such rebellion, the Church leadership needs to be all the more hard on wives' rebellion and preach harder, tougher and stricter on wives' submission. This is because of the great extent of such rebellion and the approval give to it, even by pastors of conservative, fundamentalist, evangelical churches.
Secondly, all in the Church must learn to truly despise not only feminism, in all its forms, not just in the modern form. It must also despite absolutely all manifestations of it, such as a wife nagging her husband, criticising, gossiping or slandering him, and rebuke such actions.
Thirdly, Christian pastors and counsellors must not in any way assume automatically that the wife is the victim, or that if she is not happy, it is always somehow because the husband has sinned. They must root out and viciously eradicate such vile and despicable assumptions, such evil suspicion. They must pray for wisdom to judge righteously, and cast away all evil suspicions, which overthrows righteous judgment:
Give therefore thy servant an understanding heart to judge thy people, that I may discern between good and bad: for who is able to judge this thy so great a people? (1 Kings 3:9)
Give me now wisdom and knowledge, that I may go out and come in before this people: for who can judge this thy people, that is so great? (2 Chronicles 1:10)
If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him (James 1:5)
Who is a wise man and endued with knowledge among you? let him shew out of a good conversation his works with meekness of wisdom.
But if ye have bitter envying and strife in your hearts, glory not, and lie not against the truth.
This wisdom descendeth not from above, but is earthly, sensual, devilish.
For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work. But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy.
And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace of them that make peace.
As James 3:13-18 exhorts, seek the wisdom of God, and reject the 'wisdom' of the world. The 'wisdom' of the world, which is that adopted by many 'christian' counsellors (which is another subject altogether), is that which produces nothing but envying, strife, confusion and every evil work, because it is not founded to the truth (James 3:14-16).
A large part of the problem is that the modern Church has tolerated so much worldly wisdom, all without knowing its spiritual damage. It tolerates so much of what the unsaved tolerate, that it tolerates its evils even more than the unsaved in many cases. For example, it tolerates feminism more than some unsaved people, many of whom have had enough of it, and hate feminism with a passion because of its devastating impact of their marriage, family and finances, owing to its perversion.
So, rejecting all feminist ideas, and products thereof in full, is, I believe, is half the battle. That is a cause for hope, as the battle is a spiritual one, and largely doctrine. Once this is done, putting it into right practice can be done.
So, do not lose hope in the Church repenting from succumbing to feminism. Rather, pray for her that she may repent of it.
We need to beat the living daylights out of feminism from the Church.