There is a phenomenon called the 'oppressed daughter syndrome'. It is a real syndrome and is not only that which has a spiritual dimension, but is demonic in nature. It is therefore an important issue to address from a Christian perspective, as is the case with all kinds of oppression.
The 'oppressed daughter syndrome' manifests in all kinds of symptoms, such as shyness, a lack of healthy self-respect, lack of confidence, forced career choices, rushed marriages, marital distress, especially loveless marriage, and hyper-conservativism and hyper-traditionalism, and lack of an ability to reach one's full God-given potential, and hence destiny in accordance to the Will of God, which is to know God and glory Him in all one does.
One salient characteristic of such a woman is that she is shy to the extreme. By shy, I am not saying quiet and gentle as a woman should be, but rather, severely lacking courage and confidence. Everything she does is marked by a lack of courage and confidence. She is the type who tends to choose career and marriage, only for the sake of stability, because she cannot comprehend how she could pursue a career and marriage, that she enjoys. She is often a woman who has no interests or hobbies of her own.
This lack of courage and confidence goes to the essence of her oppression, often one that does not realise, as she treats it as normal, the ways things should be. I say this not on the basis that she is not independent from family, or independent of men, which the typical westerner will view as 'oppression' of women. To make it clear, I affirm strong family ties and women submitting to their husbands. What I am saying is that she has been subject to tyrannical authority in her upbringing under her parents, be it her father or mother, or both, in such a way that hinders her from fulling her destiny. This syndrome is owing to binding powers, which are powers that hinder a person from fulfilling his or her destiny in accordance to the Will of God.
People often view such a woman as 'boring' because she is hyper-conservative, lacking all manner of vibrance and vitality, lacking purpose, and just following the norms of what her community or society tells her to do. She does not have her own culture, identity, or purpose as a result.
The key characteristic of a woman with such a syndrome is that everything she does in life, be it in relation to her career, studies, relationships, marriage or family, is not that which she truly enjoys. She does it because she was pressured or forced into it, owing to parental, community and social pressure. She is like a ship without a rudder, going where the wind blows or where the tide pushes her. She is perceived as weak, foolish and having no true purpose in life. This perception is not out of 'liberal feminist prejudice' as ultra-conservatives who want women to be as such will argue, but because she actually is. All her life, she has really just been a tool or plaything of others, and thinks that it is normal, because she is often taught that it is.
Conservative evangelicals not only think that the 'oppressed daughter syndrome' is normal, but the ideal woman. They think that a woman has no purpose, other than to be a wife and mother only, whose value only comes from being such. While such callings are very worthy and must be respected, making them to be the sole defining purpose of a woman to the exclusion of all other callings is unbiblical and tyrannical. Such a rule is really not biblical at all, and nothing but a perversion of Scripture that is being used to oppress women.
The purpose of marriage and childbearing are only a part of one's ultimate calling, which is to know God. Such vocations are only one means by which to serve God, and do not preclude other assignments in one's life, such as evangelism, mission work or some other kind of godly non-sinful calling. To make a woman's sole purpose to be a wife and mother on the grounds of Scripture verses such as Titus 2:5 and 1 Timothy 2:15 is a subtle form of tyrannical oppression as it is a means of hindering a woman's full destiny and purpose in Christ. The normality at which this occurs in some conservative evangelical circles is absolutely frightening.
But the syndrome, however is more subtle. One would think that a woman under the 'oppressed daughter syndrome' is one who just gets married young and has children soon after. However, it can indeed manifest in women who 'have it all', those being married with children, with a career. In fact, it often manifests in such women. Such women are the ones who appear to have it all, but often not because they find their careers, or marriages fulfilling, but because they felt that they must have such things, just to satisfy social, community and family expectations, so that she does not incur their judgment.
It is not about whether a woman 'has it all' that determines whether she is suffering from the oppressed daughter syndrome. Rather, it is about whether she is subject to those binding powers that determine whether it can manifest in her. Such binding powers are not only blind, but flexible, capable of manifesting in all kinds of ways including in opposite ways Whether she is married with or without a career, or married at all, does not determine whether she is under the syndrome or not under the syndrome.
Many such women subject to this oppressed react in response to their subconscious realisation of their oppression. The lack of courage and confidence which results from their oppression manifests in everything they do. They often pursue the feminist lifestyle in their youth, out of 'rebellion' in seeking 'independence' and their own 'liberation', all without realising that it is merely their reaction that born out of bondage to the very syndrome that they are trying to break from. For the result is the same: bondage hindering them from fulfilling their destiny, leading to a life of not only purposeless and emptiness, but also enslavement to what they seek. Contrary to what people may think, such oppressed women are often fornicators in their youth. The average westerner thinks that fornication by a women is 'liberation', but that is absolutely wrong. Fornication is enslavement to one's sexual desires. Furthermore, if someone fornicates out of the feeling that they must do so to escape from tyranny, that is bondage all the more. Many such women in seeking independence, often out are fear and insecurity to not being seen as 'independent' and 'liberated' by others, are often driven to materialism as a guise to cover their oppression, despite having the appearance of a more conservative, traditional woman, as opposed to a secular liberal woman. Their materialism is also just as much driven by fear and lack of confidence.
Many, but not all, such women are from conservative homeschooling backgrounds. Some are from conservative cultures, with families that are the ultra-conservative, often tribalistic type, shaping them to be intolerant towards all kinds of people, including people of the same culture, but who have some variances from them in their worldview and outlook in life. This is a manifestation of their bondage to binding powers that hinder people from even having the right perspective on things, even at a very basic level. Sadly, many such women are full of racism, albeit a subtle one that is largely hidden, only owing to their shyness.
While some may feel sympathy for such women, and treat her solely a 'victim', she is also a women who is evil, and lacks all manner of virtue. While it would be wrong to hate such women, it is also wrong to treat such women as purely a 'victim', as they are evil on their own part in many ways, as evident by their materialism, tribalism, racism and their legalism, all manifesting in their hyper-conservatism and hyper-traditionalism.
They must repent of their sins and seek deliverence. Such women are almost always, if not always under the spirit of religion. Religion and binding powers are associated, in that religion serves to justify the binding powers, while binding powers seek to hinder people from truly fulfilling their destiny in accordance to the Will of God.
The 'oppressed daughter syndrome' manifests in all kinds of symptoms, such as shyness, a lack of healthy self-respect, lack of confidence, forced career choices, rushed marriages, marital distress, especially loveless marriage, and hyper-conservativism and hyper-traditionalism, and lack of an ability to reach one's full God-given potential, and hence destiny in accordance to the Will of God, which is to know God and glory Him in all one does.
One salient characteristic of such a woman is that she is shy to the extreme. By shy, I am not saying quiet and gentle as a woman should be, but rather, severely lacking courage and confidence. Everything she does is marked by a lack of courage and confidence. She is the type who tends to choose career and marriage, only for the sake of stability, because she cannot comprehend how she could pursue a career and marriage, that she enjoys. She is often a woman who has no interests or hobbies of her own.
This lack of courage and confidence goes to the essence of her oppression, often one that does not realise, as she treats it as normal, the ways things should be. I say this not on the basis that she is not independent from family, or independent of men, which the typical westerner will view as 'oppression' of women. To make it clear, I affirm strong family ties and women submitting to their husbands. What I am saying is that she has been subject to tyrannical authority in her upbringing under her parents, be it her father or mother, or both, in such a way that hinders her from fulling her destiny. This syndrome is owing to binding powers, which are powers that hinder a person from fulfilling his or her destiny in accordance to the Will of God.
People often view such a woman as 'boring' because she is hyper-conservative, lacking all manner of vibrance and vitality, lacking purpose, and just following the norms of what her community or society tells her to do. She does not have her own culture, identity, or purpose as a result.
The key characteristic of a woman with such a syndrome is that everything she does in life, be it in relation to her career, studies, relationships, marriage or family, is not that which she truly enjoys. She does it because she was pressured or forced into it, owing to parental, community and social pressure. She is like a ship without a rudder, going where the wind blows or where the tide pushes her. She is perceived as weak, foolish and having no true purpose in life. This perception is not out of 'liberal feminist prejudice' as ultra-conservatives who want women to be as such will argue, but because she actually is. All her life, she has really just been a tool or plaything of others, and thinks that it is normal, because she is often taught that it is.
Conservative evangelicals not only think that the 'oppressed daughter syndrome' is normal, but the ideal woman. They think that a woman has no purpose, other than to be a wife and mother only, whose value only comes from being such. While such callings are very worthy and must be respected, making them to be the sole defining purpose of a woman to the exclusion of all other callings is unbiblical and tyrannical. Such a rule is really not biblical at all, and nothing but a perversion of Scripture that is being used to oppress women.
The purpose of marriage and childbearing are only a part of one's ultimate calling, which is to know God. Such vocations are only one means by which to serve God, and do not preclude other assignments in one's life, such as evangelism, mission work or some other kind of godly non-sinful calling. To make a woman's sole purpose to be a wife and mother on the grounds of Scripture verses such as Titus 2:5 and 1 Timothy 2:15 is a subtle form of tyrannical oppression as it is a means of hindering a woman's full destiny and purpose in Christ. The normality at which this occurs in some conservative evangelical circles is absolutely frightening.
But the syndrome, however is more subtle. One would think that a woman under the 'oppressed daughter syndrome' is one who just gets married young and has children soon after. However, it can indeed manifest in women who 'have it all', those being married with children, with a career. In fact, it often manifests in such women. Such women are the ones who appear to have it all, but often not because they find their careers, or marriages fulfilling, but because they felt that they must have such things, just to satisfy social, community and family expectations, so that she does not incur their judgment.
It is not about whether a woman 'has it all' that determines whether she is suffering from the oppressed daughter syndrome. Rather, it is about whether she is subject to those binding powers that determine whether it can manifest in her. Such binding powers are not only blind, but flexible, capable of manifesting in all kinds of ways including in opposite ways Whether she is married with or without a career, or married at all, does not determine whether she is under the syndrome or not under the syndrome.
Many such women subject to this oppressed react in response to their subconscious realisation of their oppression. The lack of courage and confidence which results from their oppression manifests in everything they do. They often pursue the feminist lifestyle in their youth, out of 'rebellion' in seeking 'independence' and their own 'liberation', all without realising that it is merely their reaction that born out of bondage to the very syndrome that they are trying to break from. For the result is the same: bondage hindering them from fulfilling their destiny, leading to a life of not only purposeless and emptiness, but also enslavement to what they seek. Contrary to what people may think, such oppressed women are often fornicators in their youth. The average westerner thinks that fornication by a women is 'liberation', but that is absolutely wrong. Fornication is enslavement to one's sexual desires. Furthermore, if someone fornicates out of the feeling that they must do so to escape from tyranny, that is bondage all the more. Many such women in seeking independence, often out are fear and insecurity to not being seen as 'independent' and 'liberated' by others, are often driven to materialism as a guise to cover their oppression, despite having the appearance of a more conservative, traditional woman, as opposed to a secular liberal woman. Their materialism is also just as much driven by fear and lack of confidence.
Many, but not all, such women are from conservative homeschooling backgrounds. Some are from conservative cultures, with families that are the ultra-conservative, often tribalistic type, shaping them to be intolerant towards all kinds of people, including people of the same culture, but who have some variances from them in their worldview and outlook in life. This is a manifestation of their bondage to binding powers that hinder people from even having the right perspective on things, even at a very basic level. Sadly, many such women are full of racism, albeit a subtle one that is largely hidden, only owing to their shyness.
While some may feel sympathy for such women, and treat her solely a 'victim', she is also a women who is evil, and lacks all manner of virtue. While it would be wrong to hate such women, it is also wrong to treat such women as purely a 'victim', as they are evil on their own part in many ways, as evident by their materialism, tribalism, racism and their legalism, all manifesting in their hyper-conservatism and hyper-traditionalism.
They must repent of their sins and seek deliverence. Such women are almost always, if not always under the spirit of religion. Religion and binding powers are associated, in that religion serves to justify the binding powers, while binding powers seek to hinder people from truly fulfilling their destiny in accordance to the Will of God.
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